Gaining a new perspective one day at a time!

I’m going to rock some of your beliefs right now... but your reality isn’t the only one. Your way isn’t necessarily the right one. The story you tell yourself isn’t the way others see it.

I was speaking with my daughters the other day about a situation that happened... they asked me how “do we know” what to do? I assured them that they should listen to that still small voice inside them. The one who whispers at you when you don’t know what to do. The one that reveals answers when you ask for them.

That voice that was so strong in me a long time ago... but because of abuse, manipulation, agendas + culture... I silenced her. I let the light be destroyed by opinions, by fear + by confusion. No more.

I can’t lead myself, let alone anyone else (kids, customers + followers) living by the perspectives of others. Now, in my new process, I am beginning to trust “her” again. I am remembering how it feels to know what to do- what is true + what is darkness. No, I will never be able to fix what I broke, reverse what is or erase the past... but I can start to build again. One step at a time- each moment becoming closer to who I am supposed to be. You can too.

Codependency is a serious issue. It is a love addiction. It’s birthed from a place of needing love at a young age. You obey, you say yes, you keep secrets of your leaders, you protect those who hurt you, you perform, you pretend life is different than it is... because you want LOVE. But to sacrifice your TRUTH so you find the love others- is to LOSE yourself completely.

Or worse, to never know who you are from the beginning.

This intense year of 2020 has stirred up the dynamics of our lives. The jobs we worked. The dreams we had. The titles we carry. The perspectives we built truth upon. The relationships we thought we knew.... all of it: gone. The masks we wore are pulled off- so what do we do now?

We go with it. Gaining a new perspective one moment at a time. We get back up. We are brave. Trusting that voice again one whisper at a time. Removing judgment + loving ourselves/others through the process.

I am with you. Mel Marie xoxo